How many people must form the line of comfort at the cemetery?
A valid line of comfort requires at least ten people, not counting the mourners themselves. The mourners stand at the left side of the comforters, who pass by one by one with words of comfort.
Question 2
When may comforters begin to speak in a mourner's home?
Comforters may not speak until the mourner opens his mouth first — as learned from Job's friends who sat in silence until Job spoke. This shows respect for the mourner's emotional state and right to set the pace.
Question 3
For ordinary people, what is the maximum number of days one should cry over the dead?
For ordinary people, weeping beyond three days is inappropriate. The Rambam derives the framework: 3 days of crying, 7 days of eulogy, 30 days for hair and other restrictions. Exceeding these is called foolishness.
Question 4
What does the Rambam call someone who does not mourn in the way the Sages prescribed?
The Rambam states that one who fails to mourn as the Sages commanded is 'cruel' (achzari). True sensitivity to death means engaging in proper mourning — which in turn awakens fear, self-examination, and repentance.
Question 5
What is forbidden to do or bring into a mourner's home during shiva?
We do not bring incense or spices to a mourner's home. We do, however, sweep, mop, wash dishes, and light lamps. The meal of comfort is brought in simple wooden containers, not silver ones, to avoid embarrassing the poor.